“You’re not doing it right.”

Michael Ian Black has been hearing these five words all his life. And now—on the eve of his 40th birthday—the comedian, actor, and bestselling author who brought you Stella and The State is finally beginning to wonder why.

As a husband and father living in the suburbs, Michael asks: How did I end up here? In You’re Not Doing It Right: Tales of Marriage, Sex, Death, and Other Humiliations, Michael’s debut memoir, he takes on his childhood, his children, and his career.

Stories include: How his lesbian feminist mother raised him to be a tough but sensitive New Seventies Man like Alan Alda; how he backed into marrying his wife by breaking up with her first; and how he is completely undone by hearing a Creed song on the eve of becoming a father. He shares the neuroses that have plagued him since childhood and how they shaped him into the man he is today.